Yes, I noticed too that it changed a lot, but it still feels most of the times that no other than the "regulars" are welcome and everyone else can just (sorry for the choice of word but) gtfo. But the living room comparison is very fitting, it's like a living room with huge windows where we can watch the cool people party together as long as we stay outside and quiet because if we try to step in, we are either getting pushed out or just taken for air.
Yes, it kind of feels strange and very awkward to virtually walk up to a closed circle of people and try to earn acceptance. I'm not like that in real life either, I don't make friends easily and I'm really bad at small talk. It somehow feels like that posting there would be like trying to belong somewhere I don't actually belong, because I am not one of them. And I experienced what stjärnor wrote about. I got ignored so soundly that I never considered trying again. I was a nervous wreck about posting, trying to be very easy-going, checked every sentence like a million times and spent nearly three hours after I posted refreshing the forum every 2-3 minutes. Nothing. So I got the message and never tried again. If I'm not welcome to the party, I won't come and crash it. Sorry if it sounds very disillusioned, but I was really keen on "belonging." I even wrote a quite long review-ish thing about JÄIRFM in Swedish which I wanted to post, but I just scrapped it after the ignore thing. And honestly, it was just my personal opinion, totally uninteresting to anyone but me. Luckily I have friends who like kent too (5 fans and 2 "okay band to listen to when i'm in the mood"), so I just do my talk with people who are interested in me and my views.I'm exactly like that! I'm here very often and read almost everything that's posted, but I hardly ever post anything myself. Guess I'm shy even online I'm close to fluent in Swedish, but I never end up posting in the Swedish forum because it feels like it's such a tight group of people there, which makes it harder to just jump in and write something. Sometimes you see new people posting there, but they often simply get ignored or lost in the chatting like stjärnor said. Also, I'm not a big expert when it comes to kent, I just enjoy the music a lot. So that can make me feel a bit stupid.